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Hello, It’s Still Me.

My friend Danielle recently asked me why I no longer write. I began to tell her that I had never stopped, but she called me out, “Yeah, but what are you writing about?”  I spent the entirety of my college experience spilling my heart into notebooks, wordpress drafts and published posts.  Sometimes I eagerly chased love, in other instances I fled from it. Those who engaged in a brief courtship with me would read about themselves months later on my…

Our Freshman Breakup?

A couple of days ago I received a Facebook message from a college freshman looking for advice on a recent heartbreak. After hearing her story, I was surprised at how similar her situation was to my freshman year experience. It's a common assumption that once someone enters college they are going to go wild. What they don't tell you, is that no matter your body count, you're going to start to feel crazy-- and not in the fireball shot kinda way.…

I love you two.

"I don't hate you" I told Antonio*, when I found out he was with someone new. I knew by the way they flashed their honey-moon phase relationship that they had just started dating, and probably just met. It was sickening, in your face, social media PDA. Only a month had past since we had went away together. I wasn't ignorant enough to consider the possibility they had met after the last time we had seen each other. There was an overlap.…

Selfish To Settle

[caption id="attachment_4041" align="aligncenter" width="532"] "If you're a bird imma bird bae"[/caption] How many times have you heard your friends tell you that "you can do better." I'm sure at this point you've lost track. We hear it when we first develop interest in someone, when they first lose interest in us, when we're in a less than ideal relationship and when our heart breaks. Even when we don't whole-heartedly believe we can "do better", its engraved in our heads. But…